More Listening & Less Resisting

We need to listen. We need to give one another the space that is needed to actually hear one another. And we need to give ourselves room and time to process what we are hearing.

This may be difficult as factors which cause concern, impatience and disappointment are heightened. All of these are natural given the uncertainty of our times. Burn-out is also real. Many are experiencing this. Especially those in roles within our hospitals and on the frontlines. Other professionals, able to work from home and keep their jobs, often feel guilty bringing up any stress or concerns when so many have lost their jobs. Stress levels are high as is anxiety, depression, grief and loneliness. Our bodies are feeling all of this.

It’s natural to resist that which negatively persists.

Some days it’s simply hard to process all that is transpiring. Our minds may be super-charged to “fix” or “figure out” how to solve it. How can I make sure I’m safe? What can I do to protect those I Iove? The fatigue of overanalysis causes a vacuum for listening. Survival thinking compels us to demand we must singularly “be heard” rather than engaging with our ability to share or to listen.  

We can turn this corner and make more room to listen.

We can let go of resistance and any resentments that may have come from the divisiveness of these times. We can allow greater creative collaboration which involves – more listening and less resisting. If you believe or feel you “must be right”,  you may not be ready or a likely candidate for effective collaboration. Just as if you hang out in “I don’t know” or “I’m not sure what my part is in all of this” for too long, you may not be quite ready. Both of these positions signal a need to grow. Unfortunately, these and other similar stances can cultivate unnecessary conflict or add to the resistance already present within our communication. When we resist one another or ourselves, it is very difficult to makes things work. Resisting does not serve us well. We must be willing to learn, listen, and hear ourselves and others.

What can I do? How can I grow and develop my listening skills?

Journal writing is a great tool. When we write we catch-up with our thinking and our “monkey mind”. We hear ourselves more fully. Writing is a practice for your vitality and self-care and it’s also a career/life development tool. We expand the space within us to hear ourselves more completely. This dexterity can be translated to others.

Journal writing has also proven to be a wonderful method for understanding and reframing beliefs. Why is this important? Because beliefs are tied to values. As stated before: When we listen to ourselves more wholly it becomes more natural to listen to others. When we learn to do this with new flexibility we become less resistant. We allow more space to learn about values that may be different from our own. Eventually we become more open to other points of view and allow for the differences of our values. We experience more security and grow confidence within ourselves. All of these benefit more well-rounded solutions, strategies and visions.

Listening paves our way forward.

Give this space to yourself. Engage your values. They will help you navigate any uncertainty you may be experiencing. Start by identifying or updating what your values mean for you today. Reflect by asking yourself these questions: 

  • Am I responding to what’s going on from the values that I love and cherish? 
  • Which values do I need to make a priority now?
  • How can these values serve as a guide for my decisions going forward?

Stay safe, be well and keep promoting brilliance.

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